Is the Qadr of Allaah flipping you over to negatives?

To believe that every single thing (even the falling of the leaf from the tree) that happens in this dunyaa is the will of Allah, the Qadr of Allaah and will of Allaah is a part of our Aqeedah, part of Eemaan and part of being a Mumin. Thus without a doubt we believe in this- the Qadr of Allaah, the good of it AND the bad of it.

In one way or another we kind of all have some kind of plan sorted out in life. Like we are going to finish up with school then go ahead and finish up with college/uni- get married in between or after, strive even more with dawa after getting married, have kids, move on with our lives, etc. All this keeping in mind IF Allaah wills of course. Sometimes things in life seem as though they are going pretty smooth, tests and trials are there of course but over all things seem to be running smooth.

All of a sudden an extreme trial hits life or something that just makes our life, well everything in life just seems so dull and unsmooth to us thereafteer. As though now life will be unbearable and to live another day is like having to live another thousand years. Seconds seem like hours, hours seem like days, days seem like years, and well years just seem like decades or centuries. We start wondering how or why things are going the way they are going. We all know in heart that whatever trial hit us it will definitely with the infiinite mercy of Allaah be a purifier and we need to have patience, trust in Allaah and turn to Him- but still in our hearts we try so hard to understand the wisdom behind whats happening in our life- for no doubt about it, there is wisdom and a reason behind everything that happens to us in life. We try to understand and ponder all day over the reason that Allaah is letting things go in our life the way they are going.

A good example of where one may feel really overwhelmed and as though life will be difficult to live, is when a person is married to a spouse who is really not practicing or is just totally with the dunyaa and running after this lowly life. They have to continue on with the marriage or it will end with divorce but the person keeps thinking that they made istikhara before having gotten married and things all seemed really good- so why would such a thing be happening now after the married? If the person made istikhara before getting married and made loads of duaa to Allaah before having gotten married and they end up with a person who is really not much in touch with the deen, even though maybe at first before marriage the person appeared to have good deen, all other things were positive and the marriage ended up taking place without any fitnah- the person may start thinking "oh there was no point in my istikhara" or "I made so much duaa that whatever is best happens, and now I will probably end up in divorce and things in my life are going so horribly ever since I got married, oh did Allaah betray me" etc etc.

Another situation may be where a couple may not be able to have children, this also leads to similar reactions from us these days.Other situations in which people become dumbfouned is perhaps when they become victims to earthquakes- lose their homes, jobs, lack of food, clothing, basic needs etc. Or perhaps when family members fall so ill with say cancer or other such deadly illnesses.When such extreme trials befall us- most of us try so hard to understand what exactly is the wisdom behind the things that are happening with us. We even start looking at the lives of our companions and wondering why they may not have the trials we have, even though they appear to be stronger Muslimeen than us, they are going through easier tests etc.

Such thoughts run through many of us- and I have come across so many Muslimeen who feel this way.Everyday we make duaa to Allaah. Duaas along the lines of: "Oh Allaah, oh Al-ayyul wal Qayyum- give us the good in this dunyaa and in the hereafter, make all our affairs pleasing to you, forgive us our sins, make light the punishment in the hereafter for us and straighten out our affairs in this dunyaa and hereafter, help us against our own nafs and shayaateen and make us worshippers of YOU and SOLELY you. Make us of the Mutaqeen, Mutawakkileen, Muhsineen, Muqarabeen, Saabiroon, etc"

How about when we make istikhara- we ask Allaah to guide us the decision which will bring about the best results sooner or later - we ask Allaah to make us content with whatever He decrees and tawfeeq to accept. Stop and think for a minute- are not our trials and tribulations giving us even more of a reason to turn to Allaah? Are not the sudden trials that come upon us all of a sudden- giving us a perfect reminder of the fact that we can plan all we want but the ULTIMATE plan is in Allaahs Hands, thus we must turn to him. Are not our affairs causing us to cry to Allaah and show Him yet again and again that we are weak, feeble and cannot be without Him for even a mini seconds worth of time- so we are calling upon Him even more convinced in our hearts that He is the ONLY one who can help us.

Are not our trials and things that happen in life yet another excellent reason for worshipping Allaah solely and turning away from every other thing in this dunyaa because of the realization that Allaah is the ONE we ultimatley MUST turn to.

Whether you just lost a beloved one, whether someone you love was just imprisoned, whether or not you just found out that a beloved one was recently diagnosed with cancer or some other life threatening illness, whether or not you ended up with a life partner who is the total opposite of the Mutaqqi you had wanted, or whether or not you lost everything that you have- remember the duaa that you make everyday for the BEST in AKHIRA- you ask for the best in this dunyaa and AKHIRA. Dont sit trying to figure out the whys/what/how of the things that are happening in your life. Rather constantly try to obey Allaah to the best of your ability, repenting to Him and have YAQEEN that whatever is happening to you is what Allaah has decreed for you and if not in this dunyaa then for a surety in the hereafter your dunyaa affairs will be BEST for you- so as long as you held onto Quraan and Sunnaah.

So next time dont let the Qadr of Allaah flip you over to the wrong side- let it flip you back to your fitrah, to the positive side. Let it make you realize even more without a doubt that what your Lord decrees is what is BEST for you- and He (swt) has a plan in store. We can plan and will all we want, but in the end of the day it is Allaah's Plan(s) and Allaah's Decree that will over ride all of ours. We have free choice on whether or not we will be content with what Allaah decrees- but think about it, if we are displeased that is to our own loss but if we remain pleased then without a doubt our reward and the best is only for the hereafter inshaAllaah...Keep making duaa and hold fast to Allaah.

Remember that there will be so many things in life that will make you feel as though nothing makes sense anymore or that you just cannot bare to live life anymore- but hey we have said the Shahada- so now are we all just talk or are we going to prove with our lives that YES we do truly want the best in the AKHIRA and not just dunya?

May Allaah ease all our affairs in this Dunyaa and Hereafter and make us of those who will inherit Jannatul Firdaws and nothing less- Allahumma Aameen.